Do you want to feel appreciated? Valued? Cared for? These are feelings most of us want to feel because when we experience having them, we’re happier. We feel loved.
Now think about if there’s any way that you rely on your partner to make you feel appreciated, valued and cared for?
If you’ve made your partner responsible for you to feel lovable, how do you feel when your partner doesn’t appreciate, value or care for you? You probably feel unappreciated, not cared for, unimportant, abandoned, not worthy and hurt. You might even become angry, anxious and depressed. I’m guessing you feel unloved. And there’s definitely no happiness going around.
You’re giving your partner a lot of power here. If you’re dependent on your partner for your happiness, then you’re going to do whatever you have to do to try to control getting what you want and need. This might look like you manipulating, shaming, blaming, punishing your partner, or losing yourself with your partner so that he gives you what you’re not giving yourself.
What if there was another way to have what you’re trying to get from your partner? A source that is always here for you, so you don’t have to give yourself up or change who you are in order to feel appreciated, valued, cared for and loved?
We all have access to this unconditional and ever-present source of love and there’s nothing you have to do to deserve it. And there’s only one thing you have to do to get it. Open up to it. That’s all.
Some of you might already have a personal relationship with a Higher Power that you can go to instead of your partner to know that are already worthy and to feel loved. For those of you who don’t know what this feels like to have a spiritual connection you can use a very wise part of yourself as your source of happiness.
Can you remember a time in your life when you made a very a very good decision for yourself? When you chose to take this loving action, you were connected to your Higher Self. Your Higher Self is the part of you that wants what’s best for you and knows what’s in your highest good. Your Higher Self can help you learn how to give yourself what you’re trying to get from your partner. You can learn how to make yourself happy and then share your happiness with your partner.
In my next post, I’ll help you learn how your Higher Self can help you create your own feelings of being appreciated, valued, cared for and loved.