March 21, 2019

Inner Bonding©


Inner Bonding© is a self-healing process that heals feelings of aloneness by building an Inner Loving Adult who is constantly connected with your Inner Child/feelings and with your Higher Guidance/Higher Self.

The way we treat our Inner Child determines our sense of worth.

 Growing up, you may not have had parents who role-modeled personal responsibility and who unconditionally loved you. As a child, you created a false belief system based on how you saw your parents treat each other, themselves and you. Although your false beliefs helped you to survive your childhood, they no longer serve you and are now causing your pain.  Common false beliefs include:
1. I’m selfish if I take care of myself
2. Others cause my feelings
3. I’m responsible for others’ feelings and behaviors
4. I can’t handle my pain
5. I’m unlovable
6. I can control others

The Six Steps of Inner Bonding© give you a way to uncover your false beliefs, heal your childhood trauma and release your creativity, passion and joy.

What is truly loving to ourselves is truly loving to others.

Inner Bonding can help you learn how to:
1. Not take others’ behavior personally
2. Move into compassion for yourself
3. Express anger in a healthy way
Learn how to fill your own inner emptiness rather than looking for others to     complete you.

The Six Steps
1. Be willing to feel your feelings by not acting on your addictions; tune into your feelings; take personal responsibility for causing your feelings in the present.
2. Move into an intent to learn about how and why you are causing your feelings; move into compassion for having these feelings rather than self-judgment.
3. Dialogue with your wounded child (your false beliefs/painful feelings) and your core child (your true essence) to explore your feelings, false beliefs and childhood memories; allow your inner child to release feelings including anger and sadness.
4. Dialogue with your Higher Power/Higher Self to discover the truth about your false beliefs; identify the loving action(s) that will make your wounded child feel loved and safe.
5. Take the loving action(s).
6. Evaluate the action(s): Are you feeling more self-worth?