Co-creating Your Relationship

I can't tell you how many times I've heard couples say, "We want to 'make' our relationship work." What if making your relationship wasn't work?Instead of focusing on each other, you both looked forward in the same direction? Rather than trying to recreate what you once had, you co-created something brand new? 

This would require identifying new activities to try–something different than the same-old, same-old. You and your partner would find activities that are new and interesting to both of you. 

Here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Pick a charitable organization and volunteer at their next event.

  • Write a short story, a poem, a book or even just the story of how you met!

  • Take a ballroom dancing class.

  • Join your local dramatic club and help out with their next production.

  • Take a class through a local adult education school.

  • Plan a trip even if you don’t actually take it.

  • Map out a theme-based trip (all the baseball parks on the east coast; top ten presidential libraries; five best jazz clubs in New York) and set off on a journey

  • Learn a new language or American Sign Language.

  • Plan creative date nights, like couples’ night at a pottery center or a sip and paint night. You might even develop a passion for the artistic activity or discover a hidden talent. 

  • Plant a garden, start bird watching or take a walk through a little-known nature reserve.  

Your co-creating possibilities are endless! Take a chance, go on a new adventure and watch your relationship grow. 

© by Michael Barmak, MSW LCSW ORDM